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It is necessary to balance 'giving and receiving' in your relationships throughout the year. Not in a checklist sort of way but a mutual giving and. Balance in a relationship means not only that you need to give wisely, but also that you may need to look around to see how you're also receiving more Ask yourself whether this is a gift you're giving (no strings attached, don't give 50/50 in every area, but it's important we both feel it's mutual overall. A true friendship is a mutual exchange of aligned connection. as they have been practicing and have become masters at giving not receiving. 'Givers' and mutually beneficial relationship between a 'giver' and a 'receiver'.
An Advisor may feel as though everyone always calls for her opinion, while a Caretaker may be able to best see what needs to be done to relieve stress from someone. An Equalizer will be the one who tells you the truth, while the Motivator will be the one who cheers you on. There are some actions that you will do naturally, easily, repeatedly.
The same is true for your friends.
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Never give more than you can afford. Let's state the obvious up front: Financial advisors would caution you to never give a loan that you couldn't afford to lose. With a friend with whom trust has been built, I'd gladly risk more. Whether it's with acts of service or emotional availability, don't give any gift that will leave you feeling resentful if it's not reciprocated in a specific way.
Ask yourself whether this is a gift you're giving no strings attached, no expectationsor whether it's a loan hoping for a payback? Be judicious with who you give to, how much you give and why. If you repeatedly give more than you receive and feel bitter about it, you may want to explore why you go beyond your limits. Expand your circle of friends. We all give in different ways -- it's why I'm a big proponent of having several close friends.
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We get different needs met and can appreciate how others give to us better when we can see the differences. You'll need less from any one friend when you feel supported by several. When you have a friend whose shoulder you can cry on, you can better appreciate the other friend who simply makes you laugh. The best way to feel more full? Receive from more women!
This is especially true if you feel that one friend keeps disappointing you. It's your responsibility to build a circle of friends around you, not her obligation to be everything you need. Acknowledge that balance doesn't mean being identical.
One particular change or trend that I have noticed over the past year is the number of friendships that are changing.
For those of us who are like this, we are entering interesting times. Recently though, those of us who give, while at the same time are not great at receiving, are beginning to awaken.
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True friendship is about mutual exchange and respect of each other — giving to each other, supporting each other, and growing together — with no excuses. To experience and attract true friendships — that include respecting you, who you are, and your opinion about life — YOU must respect you, who you are, and your own opinion about life and not accept friendships that will do anything less.
It is important to be at peace with being on your own and without friendships. Although at the same time, be open to the fact that new ones will come in. I have gone through several stages in my own life, in which the friendships I had were with people I considered as my soul brothers and sisters.
Over time, as their focus and priorities changed and as did mine it was inevitable that those connections would end or simply not exist as they once did. This is about relationships — it covers how to be loving and supportive to a person you are in a good relationship with. That means a healthy relationship — one that has been chosen based on a person who loves you back equally, and started with the same goal as you — to be a good and supportive partner. This is not to be applied exclusive of self-care and self-protection.
So if you listen to this — it should be taken in with the existing understanding that you first and foremost must care for and love yourself and be with a person who is capable of loving and respecting you back.
None of what I will say should make you think that I am implying otherwise. Self-love and knowing how to take care of yourself is the building block to being capable of a loving and mutually supportive relationship.
If you are NOT in a relationship that is mutually loving, this is not for you. It could even be dangerous because that other person will not be capable of reciprocating the balance necessary.
I have a lot of tools in this one — many of them are for being the most effectively supportive if your partner is suffering and many are for breaking through to an empowered position when powerful emotional patterns take over. The times when intimacy is not fun and you are both struggling to find a path to be loving in the midst of life stress.Trying Too Hard Vs. Not Trying At All
When two people get intimate, another human becomes a very major your focus — you cannot separate yourself completely when you operate as a pair. And that can make you feel frustrated, overwhelmed and powerless. For the good of making love work. There are three parts — the what, the why and the how — the tools. Take what helps and leave the rest! Not consciously, at least. And because of that image, we choose our mate. We commit — we fall in love. We grow at different speeds — in different directions.
So it is an average life experience that the elasticity of a bond will be tested. And this continuous growth and shifting is why relationships are hard — because they require we work. They require we accommodate, accept, and grow above.
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And they require we show up for ourselves as an individual: When you enter into a relationship, you are meant to be whole and complete. Ready to share this work of art that is you!
Because a relationship is one of mutual rewards and not debts owed. That is why you choose very wisely a deserving mate, and then give them this very special and precious gift that is your loving and bountiful soul. So by default, what you ask of this other person should always come from that whole place — it is not a NEED that they do anything to make you happy. It is a want, but not a mandate — for their love is always a gift to you. However, in the real world — the one filled with stress and not enough sleep, most of us tend to regress into old emotional baggage patterns.
Because, with habit — our unconscious self takes over.
When we are stressed, busy, worried, taxed, emotionally drained, chemically compromised or in a pattern of nonstop overthinking —we begin to operate from a survival mode state.
What are my wants — what should this other person do for me.